How to Choose the Right Firmness for Your Play Style

When you're shopping for a new silicone toy, one of the most important decisions is firmness. The feel of the material can completely change your experience, affecting everything from insertion to stimulation. At Strange Bedfellas, we offer our toys in a range of firmness options—from super soft to firm—so you can find the perfect match for your play style.

But with so many choices, how do you know which firmness is right for you? In this guide, we'll break down the differences between soft, medium, and firm silicones, and help you decide based on your experience level, sensitivity, and the type of stimulation you enjoy.

Understanding Firmness Options

Silicone firmness is typically measured on the Shore hardness scale, with lower numbers indicating softer material. At Strange Bedfellas, we offer super soft, soft, medium, and firm options. Super soft silicone, like the one used in our Medium Qarl -- Super Soft silicone -- Q-1249, is extremely pliable and squishy. It's ideal for those who prefer a gentle, flexible feel that contours to the body.

Medium firmness is a popular middle ground, offering a balance of flexibility and structure. For example, the Slim Aelit -- Medium silicone -- A-2159 provides enough firmness for precise stimulation while still being comfortable. Firm silicone, like the Medium Gelle's Tongue -- Firm silicone -- GT-360, is the most rigid and offers intense, targeted pressure. It's great for experienced users who enjoy a more pronounced sensation.

• Super soft: squishy and gentle, best for beginners or those with high sensitivity.
• Medium: balanced, versatile, and good for most users.
• Firm: rigid and intense, suited for experienced users or those who prefer strong pressure.

Consider Your Experience Level

If you're new to silicone toys, you might want to start with a softer firmness. Super soft toys are forgiving and easier to insert, making them a great introduction. For instance, the Small Emme Egg Pair -- Super Soft silicone -- E-2092 is a popular choice for beginners looking for a gentle experience. As you become more comfortable, you can gradually move to medium or firm options.

Experienced users often prefer medium or firm toys because they provide more stimulation and can be used for targeted pressure. The Large Horiss -- Soft silicone -- H-413 offers a softer experience even in a large size, which can be a good stepping stone. Remember, there's no right or wrong—it's all about what feels best for you.

Match Firmness to Your Play Style

Think about the type of stimulation you enjoy. If you like gentle, massaging sensations, super soft or soft silicone is your best bet. For example, the Vibe Sleeve -- Soft silicone -- VS-1187 is perfect for adding a soft, textured layer to your play. If you prefer more intense, focused pressure, medium or firm options like the Medium Fornax 4.0 -- Near Clear 31* silicone -- F-3188 can deliver that.

Consider the shape of the toy as well. Some designs, like the Medium Dragon Claw -- Super Soft silicone -- DC-913, have intricate textures that feel more pronounced in a firmer silicone. On the other hand, softer silicone can make a large toy more manageable. Ultimately, your choice should align with your personal comfort and desired sensation.

• For gentle play: choose super soft or soft.
• For balanced stimulation: go with medium.
• For intense pressure: opt for firm.

Choosing the right firmness is a personal journey. Consider your experience, sensitivity, and the type of play you enjoy. Don't be afraid to experiment with different options to find what works best for you. At Strange Bedfellas, we're here to help you make an informed choice, so you can enjoy your toys to the fullest.